Act like a lady, think like a man

For my beautiful girlfriends and all the men that appreciate and respect women...please read and comment!


Excerpts from the promotion of Steve Harvey's book 'Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man', Oprah's 2/27/9 show, where he was a 15-minute guest.He said the book is the only thing he initially did for free, as a gift to women. He did not expect in his wildest dreams that it would make the 'best-seller' list:"Every man has a plan."A man does not lock eyes with you from across the room or approach youjust to talk, he has a plan. He saw something he wants. This attempt atconversation is to find out how much it will cost him. It is not onlyabout money, but other things like how much time must be invested, whatdoes she want from me, what are her standards.Because men will rise to the occasion, no matter how high the bar isset, it's just that women keep lowering the bar, lowering theirstandards. Women are complicated, they keep talking to eachother, but men are very simple.

Men need only three things: support,loyalty and the cookie."He says if a man introduces you as his friend or just says your name,with no title - you have nothing. Men are very protective, they marktheir territory. If a man loves you, he's willing to profess it.After a while, he'll give you a title - his woman, his lady, his fiance,his baby mama, some title. If after three months he is still introducingyou by your name only, you have nothing. The man who truly has feelingsfor you will give you a title. This is his way of letting everyonewithin the sound of his voice know he is proud of being with you and hehas plans for you.Every man has a plan. He tells of one the times his father-in-law wasvisiting and interrogated the boyfriend of one of his twins. They haddated four or five times and he asks what are his plan for hisgranddaughter. After stumbling and stuttering, he finally mumbles outthat they are just kicking it. So Steve says, that's cool. Let's justbring my daughter in now and inform her that she is just being "kicked"- that you two are just "kicking it" and let's see if that's what shejust wants to do. They broke up the next day.Steve says men are fishermen, either for sport or for food. Women must determine which kind of fish they want to be. If you don't want to be continuously hooked and thrown back, just for sport, you must presentyour standards, you must stop lowering them, you must present yourrequirements. Then if you are hooked, the man knows you are aboutbusiness. In other words, when you're hooked, he must know that you areeventually going home with him, not back into the water.It is the woman that is in control - of everything.The man cannot hold your hand unless you let him, he cannot kiss youunless you let him and he certainly cannot make love to you unless you let him.

Now, with all that power, why do you suddenly relinquish it,just because you want a guy to accept you?Keep your standards where they are! Say to him, if you want to be withme, this is what it takes. He can hook you, but he should not be able toreel you in without meeting your standards.A woman SKYPE's in via satellite with a question for Steve: "When shoulda woman have sex the first time in a new relationship?" Steve cites, asan example, when he once worked on the assembly line at Ford Motor Co.,where there was a probation period for new employees. Like a lot oflarge companies, only after 90 days do you qualify for a benefit package- before allowed to get dental, medical, get my eyes checked. Within those days I was being checked out - whether I was easy to get alongw ith, to work with, whether I was reliable, showing up on time, if I was worthy. Then, and only then, do you get the benefits.

Why do women, who possess the greatest benefits package of all, pass it out so quickly tounworthy guys? Slow down ladies, you cannot run us off, if we want you!And know that men are aware of the fact that you change the rules - whenyou are desperate, when you think there is a shortage of good men outthere. And we play on it.We created terms like 'gold digger' so you don't ask for money; the term'nagging', so that you don't badger us. We created these terms so thatyou will require less of us..God has given all women this incredible gift called intuition. Get in aguy's face, look in his eyes, use that intuition!'Old School' is not dead, chivalry is not dead, it is just not beingrequired anymore.